President Donald Trump addressed all of Congress on Feb. 28, receiving surprising backlash for honoring the slain Navy SEAL, William “Ryan” Owens, who was killed in the recent Yemen raid. His wife, Carryn Owens, was one of Trump’s guests, whose loss he also honored.

CNN’s Van Jones spoke after the speech about Trump’s acknowledgement of Owens.

“That was one of the most extraordinary moments you have ever seen in American politics. Period,” Jones said. “I want to say this right but I feel like tonight, Donald Trump became the President of the United States.” Jones was able to look beyond his disdain for Trump.

It was later reported that some Democrats chose not to stand for the two-minute standing ovation for Mrs. Owens, though they did stand for her earlier introduction. I don’t care which political party you side with. However, I do care about the men and women who fight daily for our lives, our safety, and our country. It’s odd that some people will not stand for a woman who just lost her husband. Shouldn’t we support all women? You might not agree with Trump, or the Yemen raid, or war in general, but I thought that people still had the decency to stand and respect someone who lost a loved one.

A Slate article was titled, “Donald Trump’s appropriation of Ryan Owens’ heroism and Carryn Owens’ grief is a disgrace.” Talk show hosts on “The View” said that Trump exploited her. Bill Maher said that he wished she hadn’t allowed herself to be Trump’s prop. To have people, especially women and so-called feminists, objectify Mrs. Owens is deplorable. She has complete autonomy over her choices and trying to say otherwise is anti-feminist. If you can support women who spend their days protesting, who wear little pink hats, and who dress as giant vaginas, then I am sure you can find it in yourself to support a woman who lost her husband that was fighting so that other women could continue to do those things.

We’ll never know the true reason behind Mrs. Owens’ attendance. Maybe Trump felt responsible and guilty since it was his call to go through with the Yemen raid, or maybe his administration believed that honoring a fallen soldier and his grieving wife would be a single event that everyone could stand behind. If we are going to sit back and judge the president on this, then we should also take a look at the last president as well.

In 2016, former President Barack Obama gave a speech on gun control. The media focused on his tears as he listed the victims of Sandy Hook. Was this not using the deaths of innocent people to push his political agenda of stricter gun control laws? Let’s not talk about the 318 homicides by shooting in Baltimore or the 762 homicides by shooting in Chicago, both in 2016. There probably isn’t a gun problem there, right? Believe what you want about Trump’s honoring of Owens and his wife, but remember that the beloved former president did the same thing with the deaths of six- and seven-year-old children.

And yes, you certainly can stand up for a man who lost his life for you and your rights and for his grieving wife. This is much bigger than you and your politics and hatred for the president. This is about someone who died for this country and someone who lost their husband. If you get nothing else from this article, remember that.