SHE SAID: The drama of discussing feelings in relationships

Sarah Morris

Staff Writer

Does anybody actually talk in person anymore these days? I mean actually talk, not scream into each other’s ears in the back of some dark and damp frat house, with the music blaring, not really listening to the words and just sort of wishing the person would shut up, kiss you or leave you alone. Things can get difficult here in “the Bubble” when it comes to romantic issues between you and your loved one.

To start thinking about how girls and boys react when it comes to fighting with their significant others, I collected data from a short, personal survey which concluded in the following unanimous results: it all depends on the person. I actually did ask several of my friends from both sexes, and each of them said something along the lines of this: “Well, girls are more emotional so they always want to talk about everything … guys never want to talk about anything ever.”

Quickly though, each person began to sort of mutter about how they had met people who fell on both sides of the emotional seesaw and renounced their previous answer in exchange for the far simpler explanation that “it all depends on the person.” But I think the real problems arise when you don’t know what kind of person your partner is. If you’re the type of person who likes to talk about things, it’s probably in your best interest to try and get whatever the issue is off of your chest so that you’re not holding onto resentment. However, you can’t be disappointed if your partner chooses to only listen to what you have to say.

If you’re feeling a bit disconnected from your partner when it comes to communication, just remember what DHT said in their hit song: “Listen to your heart, when he’s calling for you. Listen to your heart. There’s nothing else you can do.” It’s all about understanding where your partner is coming from and what he or she may be feeling. I know it is difficult to read somebody’s feelings based solely on the emojis he or she sends, so if the going gets rough, don’t be scared to meet your partner in person and use the power of body language to get you through your troubles. You may want your lover to be the strong and silent type, but sometimes conversation is unavoidable when it comes to serious issues.

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