Dear Ms. Lace,
After reading another column of “Sleeping Around,” I felt compelled to write with some parental thoughts. Yes, parents of Bucknell students subscribe to “The Bucknellian” and read your newspaper! Your newest column “Sleeping Around” just may be “TMI” for some parents. I realize the college students of today are a far cry from back in the 1980s when I was a college student. I read this column each week and am basically stunned by what I am reading. It is unfortunate in today’s world that hooking up is simply a typical thing to do and sex is no longer an act of love between two consenting adults. The academic standards to be admitted to Bucknell are high, but unfortunately, the moral standards are nonexistent as evidenced by your weekly column. Maybe by the time a college student of today’s society is married, he or she will have reached the triple digit number of sexual partners. Maybe even a sexually transmitted disease will be picked up along the way. That’s something to be proud of along with your degree from Bucknell.
It’s all about having a moral compass and high standards. Apparently that’s not the case for “Sleeping Around.” What a disappointment. You can do better.
Ann Pysher
Tom • Jan 27, 2012 at 3:41 am
I couldn’t agree with you more! I find this column extremely awkward and uncomfortable, and perhaps the writer’s attempt to validate their own behavior. (which by the way is not the “norm”) It is written in a way that tries to imply “we all have these moments,” but in reality we don’t.
It terms of the topic of “ex-sex” I’d also like to point out the emotional toll this can take on the male. If the guy still has feelings or loves the girl, these “half-night stands” can cause the guy to become depressed and take a blow to his self-esteem. How do you think this will affect his faith in being able to hold a meaningful and serious relationship in the future?
I’ve seen this happen before to a friend and I’m sure its not uncommon. And while some will argue “sex is no longer an act of love,” it still has a very strong emotional consequence. There really is another side to the story I hope readers can consider.